Have you ever had sex with someone and then they were all like, “I want you to choke me” and stuff? What was your reaction? Did you do it? And if you did do it, were you begged to “choke me harder?” And if you grabbed down on that neck a little tighter, did you start worrying that you might accidentally kill this person while fucking them and then spending 900 years in federal prison?
I don’t like being choked. Not at all. Not even playing. But. To each their own. Even still. Choking the shit out of someone, whilst trying to fuck the shit out of the very same person… this is not easy for beginners. Like me. I felt weird. Besides just worrying about prison, I couldn’t even wrap my mind around how this increases pleasure. I mean, if you want to have a more intense sexual experience… I know a guy who can get me some really good ecstasy. Or like… we could fuck in a public park in the middle of the day. You know? And (this part has nothing to do with bragging, that’s stupid. Anyway,) I’m good enough at sexing to make your eyes roll into the back of your head WITHOUT wrapping my hands around your neck. Granted, there was this particular time where the actual fucking just wasn’t going to happen. I mean, well, here. I’m a neurotic dude. And so if I have reasons to be overthinking something, that’s what I’m gonna do. And so during this overthink-time, my cock will not function. That makes sense, right? So there was this particular time, when I had a lot to be overthinking about, and so I couldn’t keep a boner. Sorry. But I’m good with my hands, I am! But again, how am I supposed to give someone “manual stimulation” while also choking the fuck out of them? This is difficult. Although, now that I think about it, that’s kinda like playing bass. Wow. That’s frightening.
Anyway. I’m not naming names. And I’m not starting shit. But this topic is near and dear to me. Because it has been a thing that’s happening in my life.
Can people comment here, please, on this topic? Answer the questions I posed early on in this post? Or just relate whatever personal experience or interest you have in this? And also, what’s been the most shocking thing (by your own standards) that someone has asked you to do to them while… you know, fucking or whatever?
And I also want to admit. That it was strange and a bit uncomfortable, but I sorta liked it too. It felt pretty kinky. I like the kink.
I’m sorta hoping I’ll eventually have sex with someone that is into a bunch of weird shit like that. I kinda want to be slapped in the face while, you know, fucking or whatever? Yeah. Or even reversed? I’d like to meet a girl who’s all like, “I want you to slap me right in the fucking face!” (Swat!) “Harder!” (Thwap!) “HIT ME HARDER, YOU FUCKING PUSSY!” (SMASH!!) Why, you ask? Why not? I enjoy pain, mostly. And I think it’d be pretty hilarious to meet a tiny little petite girl who is fucking crazy and violent in bed. This would be good times.
No stabbings though. Biting hard enough to draw blood? That’s okay. Kinda hot even. But no stabbings.
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Whoa. Pretty intense. Can’t say that I would ever request to be choked whilst having sex. I’m pretty timid, haven’t gotten into the kink yet. I’ve had numerous guys (er… not that many, my totals not THAT high) tell me that I’m a freak in bed which doesn’t make any sense to me because I’m not really. Other than I really, really, REALLY like being on top. So, no to the choking. That’s kind of weird. I think it would scare me, more than anything. I think I’d be really into role play situations though. Sans choking, of course. No serial killer or rape fantasies, please. I don’t know if I could be violent but I’m really not THAT experienced, a few years, so maybe it will come in time. I don’t know. Anyway, that’s my two cents!
Yeah, the whole concept of “rape fantasy” used to scare the shit out of me. As I’ve gotten older, I think I’ve grown to understand where it comes from. I’m not sure I’d be into it, but I’d give it a shot if I had a partner that was REALLY wanting to try that.
And yeah. Heather. Apparently, when women hit about age 24 or 25 or 26, they all lose their fucking minds.
Well, then I guess I only have 3 months left of sanity. I’ll report back later should my 24th birthday bring me any revelations of sexual maturity.
Yeah, good luck with that! Keep us posted.
I like how you tagged this “Things to do in Church.” But anywho. Choking is a bit extreme, but grabbing a hold of someone rather hard and slapping around aren’t too bad. It’s sort of a psychological thing. Like, you smack a girl’s ass (mind you, some girls don’t like this at all while some love it) and she’s stimulated even more. Along the same lines, the tugging of hair may or may not give an extra amount of pleasure. I’d like to tell men this: just grab a handful, make a fist and hold on with a small amount of tug, and she’ll probably love that. No hair-pulling or yanking. This just pulls the nerves in the head, causing all her attention and focus to turn from the sexing, to why her head suddenly aches. Choking is just a tiny bit too much. (And this is just my opinion on things.) I mean, how can you enjoy sex when you can’t breathe? How can you make any sounds other than the slight gasp for air? Women love making sounds. It not only pleases their men, but it pleases them as well.
Sarah
Every single lady I’ve ever been involved with has been VERY into hair-pulling and ass-spanking. I didn’t even mention it in this post because it doesn’t even feel kinky anymore.
Women’s rights, feminism, gender equality. These things are good, we all know that. But I do sort of think that a lot of women want to sometimes be dominated or pushed around by their man. I think there’s much more to it than I could explain. Like there’s a primitive thing that snaps in a woman’s head when you “show her who’s boss” a little. Don’t take this the wrong way, I’m a fucking teddybear/pussycat. I honestly prefer the sweet or “passionate” kinds of intense sexing. Not all this rough shit. But I swear. Chicks are crazy. So. I’m adapting. Because that’s what I do.
Well, I’ll admit I don’t mind rough, but to an extent. I’m pretty teddybearish myself. Which can also get pretty intense. At times. But at least you’re willing to please, and if some crazy chick asks you to slap her in the face now, you’re totally up for it.
like playing a bass :)
sorry…definitely nothing to report on the sex and chocking front. i think i would feel nervous that they would actually really choke me or something – or i would be trying to analyze why they wanted to do the choke thing in the first place. i’m way too much of a pansy to try this
That’s pretty much how I felt. I mean, there were just… a lot of questions that arose in my mind. Strange stuff.
I was with a guy once who wanted to try it. I let him- he was about a hundred pounds bigger than me…. he squeezed too hard and I passed out. It scared the shit out of him. We never did it again.
But in the brief time I was conscious, the ONLY thing I liked about it was watching HIM get off on it. For myself? Not much.
Ass spanking I never got into either. I never liked it.
But for a different perspective:
I am a tall girl. I’m about 6′. I’m not overly huge or anything, but for a girl who feels pretty dominant most of the time in life (being asked to get things from top shelves, being fairly durable and a general outdoorsey ‘can do’ kind of girl) I would be lying if I said I liked to be dominant in bed. In fact, for a girl of my stature, I am more turned on by a man who can make me feel like he is in charge, he knows what he is doing, he knows what he wants, and he can ‘handle’ me….for lack of better term. ;)
Of course I’m a sucker and an addict for really passionate sexy time, but if its just fucking we’re talking about here, I’m not into flimsy film nerds who I feel like I would break should I decide to do the straddling or even think about putting up a fight.
Its not a rape fantasy, but I think at least once, I’d like to have an all out fight, with nothing held back- and lose.
xo
Wow. Getting off on that kind of thing… I don’t know. It seems like a woman has a right to ask to be choked, but it’s not okay if a guy asks to choke a girl. To me, anyway. Sounds sketchy I think.
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